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Tuesday October 21st - 7:45pm

amortizing:

Sometimes I wish I was 29 with my life figured out & sometimes I wish I was 5 with my whole life ahead of me and not a care in the world

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Tuesday October 21st - 7:44pm

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Tuesday October 21st - 7:43pm

i get really happy when it’s not me who starts the conversation because that removes so much anxiety about whether i’m bothering the person or if they secretly hate me even if i know that’s not true 

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Tuesday October 21st - 2:40pm

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Tuesday October 21st - 10:37am

"Early in my professional career I too believed that to forgive people who had injured you, especially parents, was an important part of the healing process. I often encouraged clients—many of whom had been severely mistreated—to forgive cruel or abusive parents.
In addition, many of my clients entered therapy claiming to have already forgiven their toxic parents, but I discovered that, more often than not, they didn’t feel any better for having forgiven. They still felt bad about themselves. They still had their symptoms. Forgiving hadn’t created any significant or lasting changes for them. In fact, some of them felt even more inadequate. They’d say things such as: “Maybe I didn’t forgive enough”; “My minister said I didn’t truly forgive in my heart”; or, “Can’t I do anything right?”

I took a long, hard look at the concept of forgiveness. I began to wonder if it could actually impede progress rather than enhance it.

I came to realize that there are two facets to forgiveness: giving up the need for revenge, and absolving the guilty party of responsibility. I didn’t have much trouble accepting the idea that people have to let go of the need to get even. Revenge is a very normal but negative motivation. It bogs you down in obsessive fantasies about striking back to get satisfaction; it creates a lot of frustration and un-happiness; it works against your emotional well-being. Despite how sweet revenge may feel for a moment, it keeps stirring up the emotional chaos between you and your parents, wasting precious time and energy. Letting go of your need for revenge is difficult, but it is clearly a healthy step.

But the other facet of forgiveness was not as clear-cut. I felt there was something wrong with unquestioningly absolving someone of his rightful responsibility, particularly if he had severely mistreated an innocent child. Why in the world should you “pardon” a father who terrorized and battered you, who made your childhood a living hell? How are you supposed to “overlook” the fact that you had to come home to a dark house and nurse your drunken mother almost every day? And do you really have to “forgive” a father who raped you at the age of 7?

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that this absolution was really another form of denial: “If I forgive you, we can pretend that what happened wasn’t so terrible.” I came to realize that this aspect of forgiveness was actually preventing a lot of people from getting on with their lives."

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Dr. Susan Forward with Craig Buck

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Tuesday October 21st - 10:21am

foods4me:

Black Lentil Pumpkin Burgers (vegan)

foods4me:

Black Lentil Pumpkin Burgers (vegan)

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Tuesday October 21st - 1:02am

down2chill:

the world I loved, the trains I hopped, to be part of the wave can’t stop, ever wonder if it’s all for you?

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Monday October 20th - 2:02pm

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mylesperhour:

bo en - miss you

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Monday October 20th - 1:59pm

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Monday October 20th - 1:57pm

raichuuuu:

im done

raichuuuu:

im done

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Monday October 20th - 1:56pm

yuhanmmm:

2011 ゆうはん
シルクスクリーン

yuhanmmm:

2011 ゆうはん

シルクスクリーン

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Monday October 20th - 1:54pm

minipete:

CROW TENGU
by MiniPeTe

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Monday October 20th - 1:52pm

risewiththemoon:

These are my favorite opals. Don’t they look like hatching dragon eggs? My mom has a bunch, but we went into an opal store and they had cases and cases of them. It looked like an incubator lol

risewiththemoon:

These are my favorite opals. Don’t they look like hatching dragon eggs? My mom has a bunch, but we went into an opal store and they had cases and cases of them. It looked like an incubator lol

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Monday October 20th - 1:51pm

osoflower:

hehe painted some pups on a pot 

osoflower:

hehe painted some pups on a pot 

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Monday October 20th - 1:51pm

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